Life…
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Take Care Of The Golf Balls First…
Saw this on Facebook today and had to share! This lesson is amazing and also… so very truthful!
robert1ee
The Mayonnaise Jar
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two cups of coffee.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and fills it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “YES”.
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things – God, family,
children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else — the small stuff.” he said.
“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are
important to you…” he told them.
“So… pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Worship with your family. Play with your children. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend time with good friends. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap. Take care of the golf balls first — the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.
The professor smiled and said, “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”
Every Family Has A Story…
Judgmental…
It still amazes me how some can think they know what’s best… but what amazes me more, is when they “think they know what’s best” is pushed upon you… “Be curious… not judgmental” -Walt Whitman
The Love Of My Life…
Goals for 2013…
I dedicated 2012 for a year to improve myself… and although I didn’t quite get everything accomplished that I wanted to in that year, I did accomplish many things. 2013 is going to be a continuation of finishing my goals and I have set new ones as well.
Goals for 2013:
- Family: I want to continue to grow closer to my family. I want to get to know my nephews/nieces better. I want to get closer with my younger brother. I want to be there for my other brothers and sister when they need me to. I love my parents, and I want to make sure they know how much I do, and how much I appreciate them.
- Friends: My true friends haven’t changed one bit over this past year. I love each and every one of them. I have come to know who my true friends are over this past year, and I am thankful for each and every one of you. Over this next year, I want to strengthen these relationships. I want to be there for them whenever they need a friend near, as I would hope they would be there for me.
- Job: I want to further my skills within my company to become an even better person. I want to be able to have the abilities to handle many of the task thrown my way, and I want to show my boss that I am capable of handling this position, without question. I also want to branch out into the entertainment industry and become a DJ. I am saving up for the equipment, which should be purchased by March, and I hope I can excel in this industry and make a name for myself.
- Blog: I am now running a few different sites. I want to improve my postings throughout this year. I post on here, my poetry blog, and my new DJ blog. You can find all my social media/blog information at robert1ee.com. I want to get a following by posting information or insightful thinking that my readers are interested in reading.
- Personal: I want to improve myself more by trying to be 100% honest with myself. I am not happy with my current weight, so I need to get back on a healthy workout plan to get myself back in shape. I have considered joining the ‘Body by V’ Challenge which I know a certain someone that would be very happy to get me on board with that challenge. I also want to improve my behavior skills. Looking over the 2012 year, I felt I was in a depressed state of mind for more of that year than what I really wanted to be. I need to get my mind set to stay positive. In order to stay positive I must change a few things: (1) Stay 100% with myself; (2) Don’t say yes to people when I’m saying ‘no’ to myself; (3) Become happy with my health; (4) Surround myself with people that will keep me in a better state of mind. But most of all… don’t lose myself. Who I am people love. People know Robert as the light of the party and as a fun guy to be around. I enjoy being that person, but to make myself love being that person, I must improve myself in the areas I mentioned above.
There are going to be changes in my life in 2013… And if you don’t believe me, just watch.
2012 was my year… 2013 will be the foundation for the rest of my life.
-robert1ee
A Glimpse Into My Life… Pt. XII
Christmas Traditions…
For years I have always spent the night at my fathers house on Christmas Eve. We (my father, my brother, and I) would wake up Christmas morning to breakfast and presents. Breakfast was always cinnamon rolls accompanied with a Roselyn Bakery’s Alligator Cake. We would place a candle on this Alligator Cake and sing ‘Happy Birthday’ to Jesus. We would then start to open presents and enjoyed the time spent with each other.
After some time, I would leave to head over to my mother’s family Christmas gathering. We would sit around and tell stories about different events in our lives. Eat a wonderful lunch prepared by my grandmother, aunts, and mother. We would then open gifts and enjoy spending some more time with each other.
Over the years my Christmas day evening would change. First it was just hanging out and enjoying the evening with my inner family. Later it became the tradition to head over to my mothers house to spend time with my brothers, their significant others and their children, and open gift there. We would enjoy a good dinner made by my mother. Later, when I was married, this changed to heading down to Florence, Kentucky to spend time with my wife’s family and enjoy presents and dinner there.
Today is much more eventful. I know spend the Christmas Eve evening with my second Mom’s (step-mother) family. We enjoy a nice evening with dinner and gift exchanges. I then go back into the tradition of spending the night at my fathers house with the same opening of presents and having breakfast as usual, however; this time it’s my father, step-mother, brother, and me (and sometimes my sister, brother-in-law, and their children). I then do the rest of the day like my normal tradition. My evenings are usually relaxing at my house or a family members house enjoying conversation/movies.
What traditions do you have? Where do you usually travel to on Christmas day?
To be Continued…
robert1ee
Happy Thanksgiving
Wishing everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! I hope your time with your loved ones, family, and friends is wonderful today!
robert1ee
A Glimpse Into My Life… Pt. VIII
As much as I do feel like I stand alone… I do have some amazing people in my life.
My parents have been there for me throughout it all. They have given me courage, wisdom, and support to keep my feet planted and to allow me to move forward with positive change in my life.
My brothers (and their ladies) have helped me see the truth. They have taught me not to settle for just anyone. They have helped me grow into a more understand person with how I should see myself, and for what type of person would be better for me than the ones I kept chasing after.
My best friend has been there for me for many many years. Although, I know at times I haven’t been there for her, she continues to be a great person in my life. One which I love dearly and will always be there for me no matter the situation. I am grateful for her and her kindness. I am grateful for her daughter, which has taught me how beautiful and loving children are. I am grateful for her family that has never once judged me and has loved me for the person I am.
My other great friends… I am blessed to have you in my life. You all have been there for me more than you know you have. I love each and every one of you, and I hope our friendship continues to grow!
To all my Facebook and Twitter friends… Well… lol.
Again… I am blessed with many people that have walked into my life. I love each and everyone of you, and I am grateful for what you have done to help me with my life. I only hope that I can return the favor, as much, when you are in a difficult situation.
To Be Continued…
robert1ee
The Truth Hurts… Or Does It?
Many people tell you that the truth can hurt… but how much does it really hurt compared to a non-truth/lie?
I have been lied to and I have lied many times throughout my young life. For people to not mention or tell the truth, in a way, has almost become acceptable. It seems, people would rather hear a very good lie than to hear the truth. People, in fact, have become scared of the truth, for what it can do to their life, emotions, and appearance. As I have grown, I have become more concerned about the effects of the lie being told over the effects of the truth being told.
“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” ― Mark Twain
Mark Twain couldn’t have said it better. When you mention a lie, you then have to remember how you said/told this lie. In most cases, you also then have to make up more lies to go with the first lie. Before you know it, you are up Shits Creek, without a paddle, and confused how you get in this predicament in the first place.
If one would live by the truth, one would have no worries. Now… I’m not saying life will be fine and dandy. Trust me, telling the truth won’t get you as far with a situation as telling a lie. You lie to try to protect the truth, in hopes, that the lie will allow the current situation to be resolved and your relation with this person(s) will continue. Lies will always begin to show their truths; however, and you will then be faced with more drama than the first round.
If you tell the truth upfront… one of two things will most likely happen: 1. The relation with this person will cease to exist. 2. The person, over time, will forgive you. You will have a stronger relationship in the longer run, because of you telling the truth upfront.
We live in a world with lies and hatred all around us… and look where we are. If we could replace each lie and hatred with love, happiness, and truth… our world will be a much better place…
robert1ee