All You Need is Love?

I hear this a lot… “All you need is love!”

Is love really THAT powerful that you can get through anything if all you had was it?

I question this a lot.  Mainly… because either I have never been truly in love before, or because the other person in the relationship wasn’t really in love; regardless, this has never ever been what was all I needed.  To me… love comes and goes.  I grew up believing that blood (family/friends) is thicker than water (relationships).  That there are lots of fish in the sea… so don’t dwell on just one fish.  Same meaning: Dont hold your breath on one aspect of your life… you may never breathe again.

Life is about living… and to me… love sometimes holds you down from living, if that love isn’t genuine.  Now… don’t get me wrong.  I believe in the theory of love.  I believe in what it stands for.  But… it seems to never be enough to hold me through the bullshit that relationships (i’m in) go through.  And… Yes… there is always bullshit…

I look at my past… and smile about all the beautiful ladies that have been in my life.  All the wonderful relationships that were started… and then at all the misery that one went through to get past that relationship… thats right, I said smile.  Why?  Why not?  Every event in my life is an opportunity to learn from it and make it better the next time.  So rather I win or lose… it all evens up with me.

The truth? The truth will bite you in the ass when you are looking dead at the picture.  The truth doesn’t need to hide… The truth is black and white.  And the truth will ALWAYS come out.  So if you or her/him doesn’t really love the other… that will become noticed sooner than later… at least… we hope sooner than later.

As I continue life and swim through this ocean… I will continue to take breaths, because the reality is, as much as each of us wants to be loved… someone of us will drown waiting around to long for it…

“To live doesn’t mean you’re alive” -Nicki Minaj

 

-The Other Point of View

 

The Question…

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There are many things in life that one just will never understand… Even with questions being asked, one may still feel overwhelmed to understand a certain something. I often get confused where to draw the line of friendship, particularly with females. I, honestly, get along with females better than males. I find myself able to easily carry a conversation with a female with ease. But… should I pursue anything more? Does she like me in away that she would want to be pursued? I catch myself thinking this… just because we talk, does it actually many anything more than friendship.

I know I over think… and I know I can be a worrier (thanks Mom for that trait); however, my questions make absolute sense to ask. I am a single (well almost…) male. I am a loving person. I enjoy and love myself. I have great friends. I have a very loving family. But I am missing that one thing that people do yearn for… a companion… a female that will be there for me and vise versa.

For now… I am enjoying what life throws at me. The friendships that have began again, and the new friends that have walked into my life. I also agree with the statement: “if its meant to be, it will happen”. And also: “Everyone has someone out there for them”.

So for now… I’m going to enjoy the single life… drink my vodka and wines… and if some lady just happens to come up to me and say: “hello”… I will be open to the idea of something that could be great.

Let me know your thoughts on this topic… Why is it hard to date? When does the line get drawn? When is it too late to finally ask someone out?

-The Other Point of View

Checking for Sex Offenders…

Just recently in the news, I heard about a family renting the upstairs of their townhouse to a man.  The family said he was a really nice person that took care of the area around the house, paid his rent on time, was friendly with the neighbors, and so on.  What they didn’t know, was that he was taking underage girls up into house room and doing sexual activities with them… including the landlords daughter.

The world today has some sick people that live in it.  Which is why everyone has to take more caution around the people they live around and be with.  Why did this family not do a background check on this man? Well, according to the police, even if the family did, the man didn’t register himself in the Indiana State Sex and Violent Offender List website.  He has done this many times before.

Indiana state law requires anyone living in the state of Indiana that is a sex or violent offender, to register themselves with the local police department within 72 hours when he/she moves into a new location that is considered their primary residence.

Some facts about sex offenders:

  1. 45% of sexual victims are under 12 years of age
  2. 75% of victims know their attacker
  3. 50% of sex offenders re-offend
  4. More than half of rape/sexual assault incidents happen within a mile of the victim’s home.
  5. Sex offenders cross socio-economic boundaries, living in both the richest and poorest of neighborhoods.

To check if there are sex or violent offenders around your area in Indiana, you can visit the government site HERE, or you may visit the national site HERE.  Both of these sites allow you to enter an address in, and it will show you a map of the registered offenders within 3 miles of that location.  I know I was surprised by a few people registered within a block of my location.  There are a lot of families with young kids that live in my neighborhood, so that made me a bit uneasy.

Check these sites out for yourself… you might be surprised at what you see too…

-The Other Point of Vew

The Events That Make Us Remember…

Life becomes so busy at times that you forget to stop and remember what the most important things are about life.  We associate ourselves with “things” so much that we forget about what life is all about…

Family, Friends, Health, Love…

During the sad moments in life, you are reminded about these four areas.  Each one of these are important to one’s life, and these are the foundation of helping us get back on our feet when we are down.  Why do we start to get caught up in the material things, and slowly start to forget the importance of all four of these areas?  Its sad that such tragic events has to happen to realize that these four areas are all you need; however, it’s good to know that when such tragic events do take place, that these four areas are there for you.

“When all else fails, just remember this one thing… Friends and Family will be always at your side… during the sunshine… and even more so, when it rains.” -unknown

-The Other Point of View

A Glimpse Into My Life…

I usually don’t share this side of me…

By Definition… Loneliness is the state of being alone in solitary isolation.

Eight months ago I asked for a divorce from a marriage that lost its focus on what the two of us were in it for… So for the past eight months I have been in and out of this state of being multiple times.  I have good friendships that have helped me along the way.  I have met amazing new people that has helped me keep my head high… Yet, at times, I still feel like I’m climbing this very steep hill all by myself without a rope.

Living alone, at the time, seemed like an awesome idea.  However, as the days turned night and nights turned day… this is just adding to my loneliness.  I try new activities… like this blog for example, to allow me to connect, and at the same time, share my sense of humor.  But one can only hide this feeling for so long…

Its amazing what a companion can bring… But yet, finding her has been the hardest task out of all of this… mainly for the main reason, the divorce is not finalized yet.  For the other reasons… they remain to be unknown.  I know time will heal everything and everything happens for a reason, but this is a hard pill to swallow.

Each and every morning I awake with a smile on my face ready to tackle a new day… and each and every night I go to sleep ready to get to the next morning… Hoping, one day, I’ll open my eyes, and not need to dream any more… cause you will be my dream.

“I’m going to smile like nothings wrong. Talk like everyrthings perfect and act like it’s all a dream and pretend its not hurting me.” -Unknown

This quote has summed me up perfectly for just about my entire life.  Everyone that knows me, knows the happy me.  The one that is alway smiling.  The one that everyone gets along with and is very entertaining.  Very rarely does anyone get to see this deeper side of me.

As I continue to climb this hill… I will not look back and say “What if?”… but continue looking forward and say… Why Not? (with a smile)

-The Other Point of View