I have been best friends with Chimere Lawshe since 9th grade. If you do the math, that would equal over 15 years of friendship. Yup… that is half of my life, if you did that math. I have been blessed to have such a wonderful and caring person walk into my life… one that I probably don’t deserve to have, but I am truly grateful to have.
Within the end of this month, she will be moving on to new beginnings… a new chance, at allowing her to become the woman that she wants to be for her daughter to see, and to allow her daughter the best opportunity. I am not saying that what she has around here (in Indy) is bad… I am simply saying that she will have more opportunity to grow, within her company, with her daughter, than she currently has.
We have lots and lots of memories together. We know each other’s families very well. Her parents are awesome and fun folks. I have enjoyed conversations with them. Her siblings are all great. Her brothers and I use to have fun, back in the day, with the different car audio systems I would have. Her Grandmother (big ma) made the best sweet potato pie I have ever had. In fact, because of her grandmother’s sweet potato pie, I started liking pies.
Her daughter is simply… beautiful. She is a bright-minded, athletic, loving little diva. She has tried almost every sport she can for her age. She loves baseball and basketball, and I am for sure if football would allow her to, she would of knocked a few boys off their own feet. lol Chay… your Uncle Rob will miss you.
As for my best friend… Chimere… you have been around through thick and thin with me. Even at times when I have completely turned my back to you, when I needed you there, you still showed me love and gratitude. What makes a true friend true? Is being there for someone when in need, comforting and listening to his/her problems, and not expecting anything in return. You have definitely showed this character. You have a big heart, and you will bless many people in your new city with that, just as you have blessed many people in Indy with it.
Your drive with your career is strong. You are going to fill your new position with ease and come out swinging when that first pitch is thrown. You have organized some very cool events in Indy. From the employee award parties to preparing for the Super Bowl, you have amazed me and many people at your talents.
I don’t like saying Goodbyes… I feel more like saying… “I’ll see you later.” Cause after all… one way or anther… we always will ‘see each other later’. Take care of yourself. Take care of the little Miss. Take care of the family. We will all visit soon. You will not be forgotten. You have made your markings in Indy… and every person that has met you, will agree that you are a loving person.
Love Forever and Forever my Best friend,
Robert (aka Robbie aka Jon B aka Chad)
Closing a chapter in your life is one of the hardest things to do…
I have walked many paths in my life. I have seen more than I feel I should have. I still dream of a “perfect life”, but I will settle for a life I see perfect. There are many things in my life I am not proud of doing, however, even though I am not proud with some of my past, I still have to thank my past for the adventures I took. If it wasn’t for my past, I wouldn’t be the man I am today. Being able to take a step in the right direction, and to continue that step in the right directions, takes courage and strength.
Let It Go…
There is nothing more bothersome than thinking that you can save something, but to find out it’s way past dinner time. Once you start this path, there is no going back. You are closing this chapter. You are never again going to focus on the subject, and if you do do-so, you will put yourself into a mental state of mind that is not healthy.
There is nothing that can prepare you for finally making that first step. It’s like having a child… you can read all the books you’d like to; but until you have that experience, you won’t really understand how to handle it. But handling it, you will.
Love thyself. Accept thyself. Forgive thyself. And be good to thyself.
Very important lesson I had to learn. You can not accept a new beginning if you don’t first accept you in a new beginning. I had to learn to accept my past, accept my failures, and forgive myself for the past that I had. I had to learn to love myself and be true to myself. Only then… can you be ready for your new journey.
Let Happiness Find You…
The last thing I had to learn was harder for me than the rest… I needed to stop pushing for love. I need to stop looking for that special someone. I had to learn how to accept that fact that my love to myself was good enough until someone walked into my life that I could share that love with. Searching only hurts the heart. Only scars the soul. Once I stopped searching for this… someone walked into my life that changed me forever.
To Be Continued…
As I was scrolling through my FB wall this morning, I found this post a friend shared. This is a very good read about the cycle of relationships, and why it is important to work hard to keep the love and happiness there. Below is what I read and decided to share this on my blog. Let me know what you think…
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.
Here’s the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!
As much as I do feel like I stand alone… I do have some amazing people in my life.
My parents have been there for me throughout it all. They have given me courage, wisdom, and support to keep my feet planted and to allow me to move forward with positive change in my life.
My brothers (and their ladies) have helped me see the truth. They have taught me not to settle for just anyone. They have helped me grow into a more understand person with how I should see myself, and for what type of person would be better for me than the ones I kept chasing after.
My best friend has been there for me for many many years. Although, I know at times I haven’t been there for her, she continues to be a great person in my life. One which I love dearly and will always be there for me no matter the situation. I am grateful for her and her kindness. I am grateful for her daughter, which has taught me how beautiful and loving children are. I am grateful for her family that has never once judged me and has loved me for the person I am.
My other great friends… I am blessed to have you in my life. You all have been there for me more than you know you have. I love each and every one of you, and I hope our friendship continues to grow!
To all my Facebook and Twitter friends… Well… lol.
Again… I am blessed with many people that have walked into my life. I love each and everyone of you, and I am grateful for what you have done to help me with my life. I only hope that I can return the favor, as much, when you are in a difficult situation.
To Be Continued…
Sometimes life… gives you lemons. Sometimes life… gives you roses. Well… I know I’m not perfect… but anyone that wants to judge me before judging themselves… this picture below illustrates my thoughts exactly…
-The Other Point of View