What you learn…

With every event in my life, I have tried to take something out of it to apply to my life.  My last post talked about my past marriage.  I don’t publicly talk about that much.  It is a hard topic, as all divorces are… but I did learn many things from this…

For starters… my ex and I had many life values that ended up being different, and because of this, we clashed a lot.  I had a friend on Facebook that posted a question: Could you date someone that didn’t have the same religious views or political views as yours?  I answered by saying that it would never work for the long run.  Your religious views weigh heavy into your political views and vice versa…  What, if when you have kids, are you suppose to teach them.  Your religious views? Her religious views? If you have different values of life, all you can do is give your opinions to your child, and hope for the best.  But then again, isn’t that what taking your kids to church is to begin with?  Planting a seed in them to hope they can live as good or better life than your own.

It gets even more difficult when dealing with politics… If your wife believes in Pro-Choice, but you believe in Pro-Life… OR… you believe in the death penalty and your wife doesn’t… OR… even deeper, you don’t believe in Homosexual marriage, but your wife does… Don’t you start to see the problem.  It starts to get confusing.  The say opposites attract, but those opposites have to have some similarities in chemistry to still attract.

This was the first lesson that I learned in my 20’s.  Just because you are attracted to that person and just because you have good conversations… if your underlining life values clash, then it will never work.  From this ‘life experience’,  I have learned that if I do find love again, she’ll need to have many of the same life values as I do, or I know it will not work.

To Be Continued…

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The Question…

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There are many things in life that one just will never understand… Even with questions being asked, one may still feel overwhelmed to understand a certain something. I often get confused where to draw the line of friendship, particularly with females. I, honestly, get along with females better than males. I find myself able to easily carry a conversation with a female with ease. But… should I pursue anything more? Does she like me in away that she would want to be pursued? I catch myself thinking this… just because we talk, does it actually many anything more than friendship.

I know I over think… and I know I can be a worrier (thanks Mom for that trait); however, my questions make absolute sense to ask. I am a single (well almost…) male. I am a loving person. I enjoy and love myself. I have great friends. I have a very loving family. But I am missing that one thing that people do yearn for… a companion… a female that will be there for me and vise versa.

For now… I am enjoying what life throws at me. The friendships that have began again, and the new friends that have walked into my life. I also agree with the statement: “if its meant to be, it will happen”. And also: “Everyone has someone out there for them”.

So for now… I’m going to enjoy the single life… drink my vodka and wines… and if some lady just happens to come up to me and say: “hello”… I will be open to the idea of something that could be great.

Let me know your thoughts on this topic… Why is it hard to date? When does the line get drawn? When is it too late to finally ask someone out?

-The Other Point of View