To let me viewers get to know me better, I have decided to answer 40 random questions. As I continue the Glimpse Into My Life series, I figured it would also be good to give you even more insight into my thoughts and life.
So here we go…
Tag: women
Take Care Of The Golf Balls First…
Saw this on Facebook today and had to share! This lesson is amazing and also… so very truthful!
robert1ee
The Mayonnaise Jar
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two cups of coffee.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and fills it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “YES”.
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things – God, family,
children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else — the small stuff.” he said.
“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are
important to you…” he told them.
“So… pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Worship with your family. Play with your children. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend time with good friends. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap. Take care of the golf balls first — the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.
The professor smiled and said, “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”
Are You With The Right Partner
As I was scrolling through my FB wall this morning, I found this post a friend shared. This is a very good read about the cycle of relationships, and why it is important to work hard to keep the love and happiness there. Below is what I read and decided to share this on my blog. Let me know what you think…
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ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.
Here’s the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!
In Real Life…
The Love Of My Life…
Important to Me…
Found Love…
I sincerely apologize for not posting to my blog much of late…
What has happened to me over the past month is nothing but a miracle. I have met someone. Someone that I didn’t think was possible to find in my lifetime. I would describe her as a soulmate… even though I don’t quite believe that a soulmate does exist. What this woman has shown me, has done for me, is amazing and has taken my heart away.
Is it crazy to say you can be ‘In Love’ after only a few weeks? Is it even possible to be in love after just a few weeks? I know I am. I know she is. We have expressed this to one another and both feel just as comfortable with one another. Its almost as if… we have known each other all of our lives.
She has met one side of my family and I have met her mother… and even though the time we had with the families was only a few hours with them, our family members have told us (he or she) was the one. They really liked “Us”. Again, they felt completely comfortable, almost as if, we have all known each other forever.
There is a good chance, in a few short weeks, we will be moving in together and start a life of “Us”. I can’t wait for this moment, and she can’t wait for this moment either.
To my readers… Love is out there, the trick is… act like you don’t want it for it to find you.
To Be Continued…
robert1ee
P.S. I will get my blogging habits in order… I won’t go a month of no post again! lol
A Glimpse Into My Life… Pt. XIII
Men are suppose to be stronge. Men are suppose to be brave. Men aren’t suppose to cry. Men aren’t suppose to be needy. Men aren’t suppose to… Men are suppose to…
Blah blah blah blahhhhhhhhhh…
What makes a man a man? At what point does another man or woman get to call out a man for his unmanliness? I have been through this time and time again… and I’m over here thinking, am I really that different?
Unlike ‘real’ men… which, in my opinion, aren’t ‘real men’, I do cry. You catch me watching a chick flick and you may catch me having watered eyes. I am needy. What grown man doesn’t want a lady there for them. What grown man doesn’t want a strong woman by their side? And by strong… I don’t mean can change the lightbulb… I mean, can be there to support you and lift you up when things aren’t going your way. Who wouldn’t want that?
I have had many people tell me that I get too serious too quickly… I can’t help that I wear my heart on my sleeve, and I can’t help that I try to fully trust a lady with my heart every time. I do fall for someone quickly. I do set my mind on someone I am in interest in, and I do try to learn everything about that someone. I joke about it… but I call it ‘studying’. Woman love a man that can remember things they have mentioned… or at least I thought they did.
I see so many woman that complain about their man, or a man, never listening to them. ‘It goes through one ear and out the other’ with these men these women talk about. Well… guess what… I am a listener. I am also a note taker. You tell me something you don’t like or do like… you can believe I try my hardest to pay attention to that so I can try to impress you at a later time.
I am romantic. I am a gentleman. I still believe in opening the door for a lady. I still believe in paying the tab. When dropping a lady off at their place, I stay until I see them fully enter their house and turn on a light. I remember when birthdays are. I remember when we first met. Where we first met. I know these things are important to you, so I make the effort to show you how important they are to me too.
If this isn’t signs of being a ‘real’ man… than maybe the ‘real’ woman doesn’t exist anymore… something to think about.
To Be Continued…
robert1ee
The Truth Hurts… Or Does It?
Many people tell you that the truth can hurt… but how much does it really hurt compared to a non-truth/lie?
I have been lied to and I have lied many times throughout my young life. For people to not mention or tell the truth, in a way, has almost become acceptable. It seems, people would rather hear a very good lie than to hear the truth. People, in fact, have become scared of the truth, for what it can do to their life, emotions, and appearance. As I have grown, I have become more concerned about the effects of the lie being told over the effects of the truth being told.
“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” ― Mark Twain
Mark Twain couldn’t have said it better. When you mention a lie, you then have to remember how you said/told this lie. In most cases, you also then have to make up more lies to go with the first lie. Before you know it, you are up Shits Creek, without a paddle, and confused how you get in this predicament in the first place.
If one would live by the truth, one would have no worries. Now… I’m not saying life will be fine and dandy. Trust me, telling the truth won’t get you as far with a situation as telling a lie. You lie to try to protect the truth, in hopes, that the lie will allow the current situation to be resolved and your relation with this person(s) will continue. Lies will always begin to show their truths; however, and you will then be faced with more drama than the first round.
If you tell the truth upfront… one of two things will most likely happen: 1. The relation with this person will cease to exist. 2. The person, over time, will forgive you. You will have a stronger relationship in the longer run, because of you telling the truth upfront.
We live in a world with lies and hatred all around us… and look where we are. If we could replace each lie and hatred with love, happiness, and truth… our world will be a much better place…
robert1ee
What you learn…
With every event in my life, I have tried to take something out of it to apply to my life. My last post talked about my past marriage. I don’t publicly talk about that much. It is a hard topic, as all divorces are… but I did learn many things from this…
For starters… my ex and I had many life values that ended up being different, and because of this, we clashed a lot. I had a friend on Facebook that posted a question: Could you date someone that didn’t have the same religious views or political views as yours? I answered by saying that it would never work for the long run. Your religious views weigh heavy into your political views and vice versa… What, if when you have kids, are you suppose to teach them. Your religious views? Her religious views? If you have different values of life, all you can do is give your opinions to your child, and hope for the best. But then again, isn’t that what taking your kids to church is to begin with? Planting a seed in them to hope they can live as good or better life than your own.
It gets even more difficult when dealing with politics… If your wife believes in Pro-Choice, but you believe in Pro-Life… OR… you believe in the death penalty and your wife doesn’t… OR… even deeper, you don’t believe in Homosexual marriage, but your wife does… Don’t you start to see the problem. It starts to get confusing. The say opposites attract, but those opposites have to have some similarities in chemistry to still attract.
This was the first lesson that I learned in my 20’s. Just because you are attracted to that person and just because you have good conversations… if your underlining life values clash, then it will never work. From this ‘life experience’, I have learned that if I do find love again, she’ll need to have many of the same life values as I do, or I know it will not work.
To Be Continued…
robert1ee