Glimpse Into My Life… Pt. 21

This will be a hard one to write…

As a few of you may know, there has been a big sudden change in my life. Although I still feel it is a dream and I don’t want to accept it, reality does start to set in after awhile. During this post, I will not come out exactly and say what is happening, but please be sure that I am OK.

Life is rough when it wants to be. I am usually always a happy person with a big heart. You can usually always find me smiling and enjoying life wherever I am. About two weeks before Christmas, my heart stopped. Or maybe, I was just dreaming and I can’t find a way to wake up. Life as I knew it, just did a 180 on me, and I didn’t know how to flip it back. I cried, I meditated, and then I knew what lead to this sudden change.

Many people go through their life never truly understanding what it is like to find someone that truly cares for them and has love for them. The few that do are usually considered the lucky ones. Or soulmates. Or blessed. However you want to word it, you know when you have found that special someone. That person that can make you always have a better day. That person that makes you smile and laugh. That person that you would like to wake up next to for the rest of your life. That person that you were never looking for, but your heart just was like: “Oh, there you are!”.

I am currently living with some family as I am going through my current change. Some days, not going to lie, are very hard while other days are OK. I am thankful for my family for allowing me to stay at their place as I refocus and get back on track. However, the more that I refocus, the more time I spend thinking about how to change things back and for the better.

As I mentioned in my last post, An Update…, things have changed in my life. These changes are not all for the better, but I am trying to make everything worth it. I’m coping, I’m understanding, and I’m trying to make things work. For better or worse, I’m not giving up easily. But just like the image says at the top, sometimes the mind already knows what the heart hasn’t accepted yet. Or maybe, the heart is stronger than the mind and doesn’t give up as easily.

This year will definitely be an interesting one. If I can give any advise about love, this would be it: If you love someone, make sure they know they are love and know they are appreciated. Make sure you are caring for them, listening to them, and spending time with them. Make sure that you are doing the little things. Trust me, the little things are noticed. Always tell them that you love them and always tell them how beautiful/handsome they are.


Glimpse Into My Life Series

This series gives you some real insight to my life, the ups and downs that I have had, and amazing memories that I have shared. It took some looking back on some (good and bad), and I had to be brave on others. 

Many readers of this site have learned a great deal about me with these posts. From amazing times when I asked my wife to marry me, to sad times when my best friend moved away. One thing that I have always focused on is the truth. I have always viewed myself as an open book, and I wanted to share my story. 

I have some more “Glimpses Into My Life” posts coming up. From bad decisions I have made to amazing moments I have been in, I want to continue sharing my life and my story. 

If you have not read any or just a few of this series, I would recommend clicking on the link below and start from the first post. There are a total of nineteen, so far, in this series. I do hope you enjoy reading them, as much as I enjoyed writing them. 

Glimpse Into My Life Series 


It’s Amazing…

it's amazing


Vacation “Preparing”…

Hmmmmm… How about “procrastinating”. LOL


Actually, I have been preparing for my vacation this year better than I have ever planned any vacation before in my life.  I have made lists.  I have purchased stuff early (months early for some items).  I have been getting everything lined up to make this as easy and less stressful as possible.

We are heading to Daytona Beach, Florida on Friday.  This vacation is going to be amazing and fun on so many levels.  First off… my family will be there.  It will be nice to hang out with everyone for a week.  Family, in my life, is very important to me.  Secondly… my lady will be there with me.  This will be our first vacation together.  We have been preparing for this since March, so I know her and I will be very happy to feel the sand in-between our toes.


There is a lot planned.  We are going to wake up each morning.  Then we are going to go to the beach.  Then we are going to bed each evening.  Like I said… there is a lot planned. LOL.  Well… We are going to Disney World for one day, and I am sure we will hit up the lighthouse and chocolate store.  We will go to the Boardwalk and hangout around there for awhile.  We will probably play a game of putt-putt and eat some tasty ice-cream.

Whatever we do… whatever is done… this is going to be the start of wonderful things.

To be continued…


How My Life Has Changed…

Almost six months ago it was the first of the year… I told myself, as the ball dropped, that this new year will be the follow-up to last years “being my year”.  I told myself that it was time to seek hope.  It was time to seek life.  It was time to seek love.

As the year started… everything seemed like it was the same ol’ same ol’.  I didn’t notice anything changing.  I seemed to continue to walk the same path that I had for the past year.  It seemed no matter how hard I actually tried, I couldn’t push myself into a new direction.

I was talking to someone online from time to time that I had hopes for, but I knew in the back of my mind that it wouldn’t lead to anything… story of my life. lol  However, Valentine’s Day was coming and I thought to myself… Maybe she’ll want to be my date?  I asked her and was shot down, but something else arose from my question… she asked me on a date the week before.

We ended up going out to a restaurant a few days after that conversation.  We went one evening after I got off of work (Thursday night, Feb 7th) to Scotty’s Brewhouse.  We had a great time.  The dinner was fantastic.  The conversation was fantastic.  The mood was fantastic.  It seemed like we both really enjoyed each other’s company.

Flash forward to today…

We have moved in together and have a love for each other that seems, hmmmm… almost as if we have known each other all of our lives.  Maybe it was from a past life??? Maybe true love/soulmates really do exist.  I really do not know how or why, but I do know that it feels like home.  It feels like I have never been complete until she was introduced into my life.

My family loves spending time with her.  She loves spending time with my family.  A BIG DIFFERENCE from my past relationships, and this is something that is very important to me.  I love spending time with her family, as well as they love spending time with me.  Everyone has accepted our relationship and has approved of our relationship… not that we need the approval; however, it is nice when family stands behind you and supports your decision.

We both have started to workout… become more fit… Get active.  However you would like to word it.  I have seen a major change in my health.  I have gone from 235+ lbs to 198 as of yesterday.  My body is becoming more toned as I hit the weights hard and use Insanity as my cardio.  My lady has seen her body tone up and become more stronger.

I am for sure that many more changes and surprises are still to come with this relationship.  We have a chemistry that I have never experienced before, and it is an amazing feeling.  I can’t wait to see what the future holds…

To Be Continued…



Are You With The Right Partner

As I was scrolling through my FB wall this morning, I found this post a friend shared.  This is a very good read about the cycle of relationships, and why it is important to work hard to keep the love and happiness there.  Below is what I read and decided to share this on my blog.  Let me know what you think…



perfect partner

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!

Found Love…

I sincerely apologize for not posting to my blog much of late…

What has happened to me over the past month is nothing but a miracle.  I have met someone.  Someone that I didn’t think was possible to find in my lifetime.  I would describe her as a soulmate… even though I don’t quite believe that a soulmate does exist.  What this woman has shown me, has done for me, is amazing and has taken my heart away.

Is it crazy to say you can be ‘In Love’ after only a few weeks?  Is it even possible to be in love after just a few weeks?  I know I am.  I know she is.  We have expressed this to one another and both feel just as comfortable with one another.  Its almost as if… we have known each other all of our lives.

She has met one side of my family and I have met her mother… and even though the time we had with the families was only a few hours with them, our family members have told us (he or she) was the one.  They really liked “Us”.  Again, they felt completely comfortable, almost as if, we have all known each other forever.

There is a good chance, in a few short weeks, we will be moving in together and start a life of “Us”.  I can’t wait for this moment, and she can’t wait for this moment either.

To my readers… Love is out there, the trick is… act like you don’t want it for it to find you.

To Be Continued…


P.S. I will get my blogging habits in order… I won’t go a month of no post again! lol

Marriage happens…

“[Marriage] happens as with cages: the birds without despair to get in, and those within despair of getting out.” *
― Michel de Montaigne

*I am not saying I will never find love again, but simply stating that, in light of facing a truth, being single has as many advantages as being married does.

My life, as it is today, is happy that I am not married… Why?  Well, because I enjoy flirting and meeting new people.  When you get into a relationship… it seems to start to cripple my strengths.  I am a people person.  Many people are not.  I enjoy flirting.  Many relationships see this as a sign of cheating.  So why would I tie myself down if I can be better off flying solo?

I won’t let love fly by without notice though.  If there so happens to be woman out there than can handle my personality and sense of humor, then I will be happy to look into the possibilities of being with said woman.  However, it seems to me that this is harder than one would think.  There are over 7 billion people on this planet… I am sure there is a woman out there that I am attracted to that is attracted to me and can handle me. lol

But until said woman walks into my life… I will continue to be me!



The Truth Hurts… Or Does It?

Many people tell you that the truth can hurt… but how much does it really hurt compared to a non-truth/lie?

I have been lied to and I have lied many times throughout my young life.  For people to not mention or tell the truth, in a way, has almost become acceptable.  It seems, people would rather hear a very good lie than to hear the truth.  People, in fact, have become scared of the truth, for what it can do to their life, emotions, and appearance.  As I have grown, I have become more concerned about the effects of the lie being told over the effects of the truth being told.

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”  ― Mark Twain

Mark Twain couldn’t have said it better.  When you mention a lie, you then have to remember how you said/told this lie.  In most cases, you also then have to make up more lies to go with the first lie.  Before you know it, you are up Shits Creek, without a paddle, and confused how you get in this predicament in the first place.

If one would live by the truth, one would have no worries.  Now… I’m not saying life will be fine and dandy.  Trust me, telling the truth won’t get you as far with a situation as telling a lie.  You lie to try to protect the truth, in hopes, that the lie will allow the current situation to be resolved and your relation with this person(s) will continue.  Lies will always begin to show their truths; however, and you will then be faced with more drama than the first round.

If you tell the truth upfront… one of two things will most likely happen: 1. The relation with this person will cease to exist. 2. The person, over time, will forgive you.  You will have a stronger relationship in the longer run, because of you telling the truth upfront.

We live in a world with lies and hatred all around us… and look where we are.  If we could replace each lie and hatred with love, happiness, and truth… our world will be a much better place…


What you learn…

With every event in my life, I have tried to take something out of it to apply to my life.  My last post talked about my past marriage.  I don’t publicly talk about that much.  It is a hard topic, as all divorces are… but I did learn many things from this…

For starters… my ex and I had many life values that ended up being different, and because of this, we clashed a lot.  I had a friend on Facebook that posted a question: Could you date someone that didn’t have the same religious views or political views as yours?  I answered by saying that it would never work for the long run.  Your religious views weigh heavy into your political views and vice versa…  What, if when you have kids, are you suppose to teach them.  Your religious views? Her religious views? If you have different values of life, all you can do is give your opinions to your child, and hope for the best.  But then again, isn’t that what taking your kids to church is to begin with?  Planting a seed in them to hope they can live as good or better life than your own.

It gets even more difficult when dealing with politics… If your wife believes in Pro-Choice, but you believe in Pro-Life… OR… you believe in the death penalty and your wife doesn’t… OR… even deeper, you don’t believe in Homosexual marriage, but your wife does… Don’t you start to see the problem.  It starts to get confusing.  The say opposites attract, but those opposites have to have some similarities in chemistry to still attract.

This was the first lesson that I learned in my 20’s.  Just because you are attracted to that person and just because you have good conversations… if your underlining life values clash, then it will never work.  From this ‘life experience’,  I have learned that if I do find love again, she’ll need to have many of the same life values as I do, or I know it will not work.

To Be Continued…