A Glimpse Into My Life… Pt. VIII

As much as I do feel like I stand alone… I do have some amazing people in my life.

My parents have been there for me throughout it all.  They have given me courage, wisdom, and support to keep my feet planted and to allow me to move forward with positive change in my life.

My brothers (and their ladies) have helped me see the truth.  They have taught me not to settle for just anyone.  They have helped me grow into a more understand person with how I should see myself, and for what type of person would be better for me than the ones I kept chasing after.

My best friend has been there for me for many many years.  Although, I know at times I haven’t been there for her, she continues to be a great person in my life.  One which I love dearly and will always be there for me no matter the situation.  I am grateful for her and her kindness.  I am grateful for her daughter, which has taught me how beautiful and loving children are.  I am grateful for her family that has never once judged me and has loved me for the person I am.

My other great friends… I am blessed to have you in my life.  You all have been there for me more than you know you have.  I love each and every one of you, and I hope our friendship continues to grow!

To all my Facebook and Twitter friends… Well… lol.

Again… I am blessed with many people that have walked into my life.  I love each and everyone of you, and I am grateful for what you have done to help me with my life.  I only hope that I can return the favor, as much, when you are in a difficult situation.

To Be Continued…

robert1ee

A Glimpse Into My Life… Pt. VII

This topic gets a bit deeper into my bodies physics; however, I feel that it is a great subject to continue my “A Glimpse Into My Life…” series…

The continued blog is a very personal issue… and for me to talk openly about this issue, is something I have become comfortable with.  I hope to educate some people that may not know about this condition, or may have this condition but didn’t know what it was/is…

A medical condition where a man can not ejaculate (finish) during sexual intercourse is called Delayed Ejaculation.  This condition exist in many men throughout the World.  Some are born with it, some acquire it over time… but the issues can become a serious breaking point in many relationships.

Symptoms of said condition:

  1. Takes longer than 30 minutes to “climax”.
  2. You cannot “climax” during sexual intercourse.
  3. Can “climax” only when masturbating or sometimes oral.

Delayed orgasm is divided into the following types based on symptoms:

  • Lifelong vs. acquired. With lifelong delayed ejaculation, the problem is present from the time a male reaches sexual maturity. Acquired delayed ejaculation occurs after a period of normal sexual functioning.
  • Generalized vs. situational. Generalized delayed ejaculation isn’t limited to certain sex partners or certain kinds of stimulation. Situational delayed ejaculation occurs only under certain circumstances.

Causes to How This Can Happen…

Physical Causes

  1. Birth defects
  2. Spinal injury
  3. Heart surgery

Psychological Causes

  1. Depression
  2. Stress
  3. Anxiety about performance

Medications and Other Causes:

  1. Antidepressants
  2. High Blood Pressure Meds
  3. Alcohol (too much of it in your system)
  4. Drugs (illegal)

Every since 9th grade… I have experienced this.  It has its blessing, and it has its problems.  For starters… I can’t accidently get a lady pregnant. I can “perform” for hours without needing breaks except to catch our breaths. However, because many ladies are insecure, they start to assume it is their “performance” that is terrible.  And because of this terrible “performance”, I have relationships end thinking that they couldn’t satisfy me.

Truth be told… I have always been satisfied/satisfying, this has never been a problem.  It is hard to tell a lady; however, that this doesn’t result from their “lack of experience” that they believe, that it is actually a personal issue/condition that I have.

I have learned to live with my condition, and even joke about it from time to time to close friends and/or relationships I have had.  However, when asked if I’ll be having kids anytime soon… that is when I usually get serious and say “doubtful”.  Most don’t know, including my parents, that I have had this condition for such a long time; however, I do hope this will answer some of their questions on why my ex-wife and I never did have children.

Will I ever have children? I do hope so.  I love kids.  I would love to have the responsibilities that come with them.  I would love to be a father, a daddy.  Because of my condition, most likely I’ll have to go through special measures to have one; however, if the partner is right and we have the right chemistry, then you never know…

To Be Continued…

-robert1ee

The Truth Hurts… Or Does It?

Many people tell you that the truth can hurt… but how much does it really hurt compared to a non-truth/lie?

I have been lied to and I have lied many times throughout my young life.  For people to not mention or tell the truth, in a way, has almost become acceptable.  It seems, people would rather hear a very good lie than to hear the truth.  People, in fact, have become scared of the truth, for what it can do to their life, emotions, and appearance.  As I have grown, I have become more concerned about the effects of the lie being told over the effects of the truth being told.

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”  ― Mark Twain

Mark Twain couldn’t have said it better.  When you mention a lie, you then have to remember how you said/told this lie.  In most cases, you also then have to make up more lies to go with the first lie.  Before you know it, you are up Shits Creek, without a paddle, and confused how you get in this predicament in the first place.

If one would live by the truth, one would have no worries.  Now… I’m not saying life will be fine and dandy.  Trust me, telling the truth won’t get you as far with a situation as telling a lie.  You lie to try to protect the truth, in hopes, that the lie will allow the current situation to be resolved and your relation with this person(s) will continue.  Lies will always begin to show their truths; however, and you will then be faced with more drama than the first round.

If you tell the truth upfront… one of two things will most likely happen: 1. The relation with this person will cease to exist. 2. The person, over time, will forgive you.  You will have a stronger relationship in the longer run, because of you telling the truth upfront.

We live in a world with lies and hatred all around us… and look where we are.  If we could replace each lie and hatred with love, happiness, and truth… our world will be a much better place…

robert1ee