40 Random Questions…

To let me viewers get to know me better, I have decided to answer 40 random questions. As I continue the Glimpse Into My Life series, I figured it would also be good to give you even more insight into my thoughts and life.

So here we go…

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Are You With The Right Partner

As I was scrolling through my FB wall this morning, I found this post a friend shared.  This is a very good read about the cycle of relationships, and why it is important to work hard to keep the love and happiness there.  Below is what I read and decided to share this on my blog.  Let me know what you think…

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perfect partner

ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!

A Glimpse Into My Life… Pt. VII

This topic gets a bit deeper into my bodies physics; however, I feel that it is a great subject to continue my “A Glimpse Into My Life…” series…

The continued blog is a very personal issue… and for me to talk openly about this issue, is something I have become comfortable with.  I hope to educate some people that may not know about this condition, or may have this condition but didn’t know what it was/is…

A medical condition where a man can not ejaculate (finish) during sexual intercourse is called Delayed Ejaculation.  This condition exist in many men throughout the World.  Some are born with it, some acquire it over time… but the issues can become a serious breaking point in many relationships.

Symptoms of said condition:

  1. Takes longer than 30 minutes to “climax”.
  2. You cannot “climax” during sexual intercourse.
  3. Can “climax” only when masturbating or sometimes oral.

Delayed orgasm is divided into the following types based on symptoms:

  • Lifelong vs. acquired. With lifelong delayed ejaculation, the problem is present from the time a male reaches sexual maturity. Acquired delayed ejaculation occurs after a period of normal sexual functioning.
  • Generalized vs. situational. Generalized delayed ejaculation isn’t limited to certain sex partners or certain kinds of stimulation. Situational delayed ejaculation occurs only under certain circumstances.

Causes to How This Can Happen…

Physical Causes

  1. Birth defects
  2. Spinal injury
  3. Heart surgery

Psychological Causes

  1. Depression
  2. Stress
  3. Anxiety about performance

Medications and Other Causes:

  1. Antidepressants
  2. High Blood Pressure Meds
  3. Alcohol (too much of it in your system)
  4. Drugs (illegal)

Every since 9th grade… I have experienced this.  It has its blessing, and it has its problems.  For starters… I can’t accidently get a lady pregnant. I can “perform” for hours without needing breaks except to catch our breaths. However, because many ladies are insecure, they start to assume it is their “performance” that is terrible.  And because of this terrible “performance”, I have relationships end thinking that they couldn’t satisfy me.

Truth be told… I have always been satisfied/satisfying, this has never been a problem.  It is hard to tell a lady; however, that this doesn’t result from their “lack of experience” that they believe, that it is actually a personal issue/condition that I have.

I have learned to live with my condition, and even joke about it from time to time to close friends and/or relationships I have had.  However, when asked if I’ll be having kids anytime soon… that is when I usually get serious and say “doubtful”.  Most don’t know, including my parents, that I have had this condition for such a long time; however, I do hope this will answer some of their questions on why my ex-wife and I never did have children.

Will I ever have children? I do hope so.  I love kids.  I would love to have the responsibilities that come with them.  I would love to be a father, a daddy.  Because of my condition, most likely I’ll have to go through special measures to have one; however, if the partner is right and we have the right chemistry, then you never know…

To Be Continued…

-robert1ee

A Glimpse Into My Life… Pt. II

Have you ever been truly in love???  I have been… once.

It all started about nine years and six months ago…

I worked as the GM Assistant Manager at a Marsh Supermarkets near Fox Road in the Geist area of Indianapolis, Indiana.  Her mom and her shopped there once a week.  I would always say “Hi” to them, and help them find things from time-to-time.  Her mother was a very wonderful person.  She always had a smile on her face, and I could tell she was a very loving woman.  Her daughter… was beautiful.  She had an amazing smile and a figure that would drive any man crazy at that age.  Age… that was the one thing that always concerned me.  I knew this daughter was younger than me, but it was really hard to tell how ‘much’ younger she really was.

A few weeks go by and I start to find friends of mine that also were friends with her.  I found out she was in HS, and that she was beginning to start her senior year. I was beginning to start my freshman year of college, so I felt relieved that she was not too much younger than I.  I also found out her name: Kristi.  Kristi… this name seemed to fit her very well.  She had amazing blue eyes, had a shy but interesting personality, and enjoyed going to after school activities (basketball and football games). The more I began to know about her, the more I started to have an interest in her.

A few weeks later, while I was at work, she stops in to get a salad.  She walked by me, smiled, and, at that moment, I knew I had to stop her and have a conversation with her.  The conversation went well.  We had a small chat that ended with me giving her my number.  I honestly didn’t expect her to call… I have always been good with talking to ladies, but getting calls from them was rare.  I got off of work that day around three or four pm, and within a few hours, my phone rang.  At that moment… I knew I found someone special.

Like every relationship… you have your ups and downs.  Mostly all the downs were because of my stupidity and selfishness, but somehow, she was still there by my side.  We went to college together, then moved in together, then I proposed to her one late evening in December of 2006.  We even set a date that same night on when we would wed.  We both wanted a Winter wedding day.  After some thinking late into this night, we decided on a December 27th, 2008 wedding date.  Everything was set.  The future looked promising.  I was in love with her and loved her.  She was, and still is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

No… this story doesn’t have a happy ending.  Not even three years later… we ended up giving up.  Less than a year after that, we ended up getting a divorce.  The reasons for us getting a divorce?  Well… I would say it was 50/50; however, I would have to say I was more at blame, so it was probably closer to 80/20.  We had issues.  We had some problems that we could not seem to get past.  I became a weak man, a weak husband, and even though I tried to stand tall… I crumbled.

Divorce has been very hard on me… I have tried to suck it up, go out with friends and family, and try to hide the truth of how much pain I was in.  I missed her, and I still do miss her.  Thoughts of other men dated her angered me.  Even though I’m the one that asked for the divorce, I felt she was still, very much, apart of me.  But she wasn’t… There was nothing I could do to win her heart back.  Our relationship was ruined because of actions that I took.  If only I was a stronger man… if only I had just listened to her problems/concerns… then maybe, maybe, we would still be together today.

To Be Continued…

-robert1ee

More Lonely Than Before…

Know Your Worth

Does waking up to someone in bed every morning make you happy? What if it is someone different every time… Or rather… does having meaningless relationships make you happy? Or would you rather just have someone to call upon when you are lonely…

It’s sad… but when one truly looks at the situation… you can see both parties are just being used. But why? Why? How does this work? How, possibly, in the back of your mind, can you believe that you are doing something good for your feelings/heart when you don’t even love what you are doing?

It makes me wonder… Why do it in the first place then? What is the point in these meaningless relationships… Is it to just make you happy? Is it to satisfy your sexual cravings? Is it to making you feel less lonely… when in actuality, it makes you feel even more so???

Maybe I’m approaching this to sensitive… I mean… it’s just fucking right? Right? What is wrong with sex being just sex? Why does there always have to be feelings involved? Emotions involved? Why can’t just two people get together and just enjoy something wonderful…

That last paragraph is something I’ll never know the answer to.  I’ll never understand how one could eventually allow themselves to have sex ONLY because they feel lonely or needed.  And to do it with someone that doesn’t care about you or your feelings, but to only satisfy their own loneliness or neediness.

I am a man.  I am sensitive.  I do care about who I have sex with.  I don’t want meaningless relationships.  I do love.  I do fall in love.  I do care about other’s emotions.  Call me what you want… but this, my dear friends, is what is missing.  This, my dear friends, is why relationships of this sort I have talked about above… will never work.  Cause without emotions, without caring, WITHOUT… love… this is just lust.

And lust, to me, is a desease that the mind makes up just to make you feel less lonely.  Lust… hurts the soul and cripples the body… and will never… truly… make one happy.

-The Other Point Of View

Seduction…

Desperate Situations,
Sexual Temptation,
My minds focused…
One way track to hopeless…

Starving…
My visual is what my minds carving,
Only one thing I see,
Tunnel vision has consumed me.

So seductive…
I love the way she moves,
From the bathroom to the bed,
Damn… she all up in my head,
Vision no longer clear,
Once she starts kissing on my ear.

My mind goes blank,
As she climbs on top,
Head sinks deeper,
As I tell her “dont stop”.

She must be a dream,
Because this couldn’t exist,
A body so fine as hers…
I thought I could never get with.

As we reach the climax,
She starts to bend back,
She grabs my feet,
As she continues to fight back.

I feel her quiver,
She feels me shake,
She doesn’t stop,
Tell she gets all the bait.

Its amazing…
Breathtaking…
The way she is with me,
I don’t want anything else…

Its amazing…
Breathtaking…
When I’m with her…
She doesn’t want anything else…

Love making at its finest…

All You Need is Love?

I hear this a lot… “All you need is love!”

Is love really THAT powerful that you can get through anything if all you had was it?

I question this a lot.  Mainly… because either I have never been truly in love before, or because the other person in the relationship wasn’t really in love; regardless, this has never ever been what was all I needed.  To me… love comes and goes.  I grew up believing that blood (family/friends) is thicker than water (relationships).  That there are lots of fish in the sea… so don’t dwell on just one fish.  Same meaning: Dont hold your breath on one aspect of your life… you may never breathe again.

Life is about living… and to me… love sometimes holds you down from living, if that love isn’t genuine.  Now… don’t get me wrong.  I believe in the theory of love.  I believe in what it stands for.  But… it seems to never be enough to hold me through the bullshit that relationships (i’m in) go through.  And… Yes… there is always bullshit…

I look at my past… and smile about all the beautiful ladies that have been in my life.  All the wonderful relationships that were started… and then at all the misery that one went through to get past that relationship… thats right, I said smile.  Why?  Why not?  Every event in my life is an opportunity to learn from it and make it better the next time.  So rather I win or lose… it all evens up with me.

The truth? The truth will bite you in the ass when you are looking dead at the picture.  The truth doesn’t need to hide… The truth is black and white.  And the truth will ALWAYS come out.  So if you or her/him doesn’t really love the other… that will become noticed sooner than later… at least… we hope sooner than later.

As I continue life and swim through this ocean… I will continue to take breaths, because the reality is, as much as each of us wants to be loved… someone of us will drown waiting around to long for it…

“To live doesn’t mean you’re alive” -Nicki Minaj

 

-The Other Point of View

 

Twenty Questions About Me…

Time to answer some questions about me…

1. Whats your favorite thing about girls?
A: At first thought, I would say a girls ass. But actually it would be her smile.

2. Do you like soft sensual kisses?
A: Yes.

3. Do you like intense, passionate kisses?
A: Yes.

4. What do you think about bras and panties?
A: Depending on the style/look… they can be very sexy. But all is still better on the floor.

5. What flavor lipgloss do you like best, on a girl?
A: Strawberry.

6. Holding hands in public…yes or no?
A: Absolutely.

7. Do you like kissing or general public displays of affection in public?
A: Yes. I enjoy the excitement of getting caught…

8. What is your ideal first date?
A: Dinner or Coffee. A place that is public so you can talk.  Movies for a first date do
not make since, because you do not really get to know the person.

9. How long should a bf/gf wait and/or date before going to 1st base?
A: This depends… if you two really enjoyed each other, then on the first date…

10. 2nd base?
A: I would say date two, if date one went well, this would be appropriate.

11. 3rd base?
A: Third date or greater. I don’t like a female that is very easy in this area.

12. Home run?
A: Once 3rd base is hit… then I would say either that same day as or the next date.

13. How many gf’s has he had?
A: Wow… um… how many g/f in general have I had? Or??? lol.

14. Have you had sex?
A: Yes, I have definitely had sex.

15. If yes…with how many girls? If no…why not?
A: Since females always multiply a number with a mans number… then i’ll say 2.67 🙂

16. Could you sleep side by side with a girl you’re attracted to and not “get wood”?
A: No. I would eventually, at some point, get turned on.  Besides… that’s what you
want anyways.

17. What are your thoughts on masturbation?
A: I’m open to the idea completely. 🙂

18. Do you liked shaved “kittycats” or natural?
A: Definitely needs to be shaved.  If I take care of myself, then she damn sure better
take care of herself too.  Just saying…

19. Have you ever had phonesex?
A: Yes. Can get interesting.

20. Have you ever had cybersex?
A: Yes. Again, it can get interesting.

-The Other Point of View