Judgmental…

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It still amazes me how some can think they know what’s best… but what amazes me more, is when they “think they know what’s best” is pushed upon you… “Be curious… not judgmental” -Walt Whitman

 

Live… Life… Love… Life…

Blood is hot,
Heart beats rapidly,
I am out of breath,
However, its worthy…

To seeing your eyes,
To catching a smile,
I’ll always come to you,
Even if I have to travel for miles…

Just to hold your hand,
Just to hear your voice,
Just to steal a kiss,
Just so my soul can rejoice…

Being with you…
Seems to take away any doubt,
The love that you put in life,
Is the best I’ve seen about…

Living this life,
Loving this life,
One day soon, my love,
I will make you my wife…

Moving…

It is amazing how quickly life can change your attitude around. At one point in my life (just a few short weeks ago), I was preaching that I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship unless I found someone that could take my breath away… Today I am writing to let you know… that the woman that has taken by breath away, has agreed with me to move in together to start a life of “us”.

What is going to happen in the next few weeks will be an amazing transition in my life… a life that I never thought I would find in my lifetime…

I’m moving in…

To Be Continued…

robert1ee

Found Love…

I sincerely apologize for not posting to my blog much of late…

What has happened to me over the past month is nothing but a miracle.  I have met someone.  Someone that I didn’t think was possible to find in my lifetime.  I would describe her as a soulmate… even though I don’t quite believe that a soulmate does exist.  What this woman has shown me, has done for me, is amazing and has taken my heart away.

Is it crazy to say you can be ‘In Love’ after only a few weeks?  Is it even possible to be in love after just a few weeks?  I know I am.  I know she is.  We have expressed this to one another and both feel just as comfortable with one another.  Its almost as if… we have known each other all of our lives.

She has met one side of my family and I have met her mother… and even though the time we had with the families was only a few hours with them, our family members have told us (he or she) was the one.  They really liked “Us”.  Again, they felt completely comfortable, almost as if, we have all known each other forever.

There is a good chance, in a few short weeks, we will be moving in together and start a life of “Us”.  I can’t wait for this moment, and she can’t wait for this moment either.

To my readers… Love is out there, the trick is… act like you don’t want it for it to find you.

To Be Continued…

robert1ee

P.S. I will get my blogging habits in order… I won’t go a month of no post again! lol

Marriage happens…

“[Marriage] happens as with cages: the birds without despair to get in, and those within despair of getting out.” *
― Michel de Montaigne

*I am not saying I will never find love again, but simply stating that, in light of facing a truth, being single has as many advantages as being married does.

My life, as it is today, is happy that I am not married… Why?  Well, because I enjoy flirting and meeting new people.  When you get into a relationship… it seems to start to cripple my strengths.  I am a people person.  Many people are not.  I enjoy flirting.  Many relationships see this as a sign of cheating.  So why would I tie myself down if I can be better off flying solo?

I won’t let love fly by without notice though.  If there so happens to be woman out there than can handle my personality and sense of humor, then I will be happy to look into the possibilities of being with said woman.  However, it seems to me that this is harder than one would think.  There are over 7 billion people on this planet… I am sure there is a woman out there that I am attracted to that is attracted to me and can handle me. lol

But until said woman walks into my life… I will continue to be me!

robert1ee

 

Lonely Paths

I walk tall
Eyes to the ground
Simple things in this life
Seem hard to be found

Hidden in the dark
My vision tries to see
Pupils enlarged
But nothing I see

I’m told I can find it
But it’s not meant to be found
Wait for it to find you
And spin your around

Life isn’t difficult
Only you make it so
So life is difficult
Because you made it so

Maybe it’s time you realized the truth
Maybe, just maybe…
It’s time to stand up to you…

The Truth Hurts… Or Does It?

Many people tell you that the truth can hurt… but how much does it really hurt compared to a non-truth/lie?

I have been lied to and I have lied many times throughout my young life.  For people to not mention or tell the truth, in a way, has almost become acceptable.  It seems, people would rather hear a very good lie than to hear the truth.  People, in fact, have become scared of the truth, for what it can do to their life, emotions, and appearance.  As I have grown, I have become more concerned about the effects of the lie being told over the effects of the truth being told.

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”  ― Mark Twain

Mark Twain couldn’t have said it better.  When you mention a lie, you then have to remember how you said/told this lie.  In most cases, you also then have to make up more lies to go with the first lie.  Before you know it, you are up Shits Creek, without a paddle, and confused how you get in this predicament in the first place.

If one would live by the truth, one would have no worries.  Now… I’m not saying life will be fine and dandy.  Trust me, telling the truth won’t get you as far with a situation as telling a lie.  You lie to try to protect the truth, in hopes, that the lie will allow the current situation to be resolved and your relation with this person(s) will continue.  Lies will always begin to show their truths; however, and you will then be faced with more drama than the first round.

If you tell the truth upfront… one of two things will most likely happen: 1. The relation with this person will cease to exist. 2. The person, over time, will forgive you.  You will have a stronger relationship in the longer run, because of you telling the truth upfront.

We live in a world with lies and hatred all around us… and look where we are.  If we could replace each lie and hatred with love, happiness, and truth… our world will be a much better place…

robert1ee

What you learn…

With every event in my life, I have tried to take something out of it to apply to my life.  My last post talked about my past marriage.  I don’t publicly talk about that much.  It is a hard topic, as all divorces are… but I did learn many things from this…

For starters… my ex and I had many life values that ended up being different, and because of this, we clashed a lot.  I had a friend on Facebook that posted a question: Could you date someone that didn’t have the same religious views or political views as yours?  I answered by saying that it would never work for the long run.  Your religious views weigh heavy into your political views and vice versa…  What, if when you have kids, are you suppose to teach them.  Your religious views? Her religious views? If you have different values of life, all you can do is give your opinions to your child, and hope for the best.  But then again, isn’t that what taking your kids to church is to begin with?  Planting a seed in them to hope they can live as good or better life than your own.

It gets even more difficult when dealing with politics… If your wife believes in Pro-Choice, but you believe in Pro-Life… OR… you believe in the death penalty and your wife doesn’t… OR… even deeper, you don’t believe in Homosexual marriage, but your wife does… Don’t you start to see the problem.  It starts to get confusing.  The say opposites attract, but those opposites have to have some similarities in chemistry to still attract.

This was the first lesson that I learned in my 20’s.  Just because you are attracted to that person and just because you have good conversations… if your underlining life values clash, then it will never work.  From this ‘life experience’,  I have learned that if I do find love again, she’ll need to have many of the same life values as I do, or I know it will not work.

To Be Continued…

robert1ee