What you learn…

With every event in my life, I have tried to take something out of it to apply to my life.  My last post talked about my past marriage.  I don’t publicly talk about that much.  It is a hard topic, as all divorces are… but I did learn many things from this…

For starters… my ex and I had many life values that ended up being different, and because of this, we clashed a lot.  I had a friend on Facebook that posted a question: Could you date someone that didn’t have the same religious views or political views as yours?  I answered by saying that it would never work for the long run.  Your religious views weigh heavy into your political views and vice versa…  What, if when you have kids, are you suppose to teach them.  Your religious views? Her religious views? If you have different values of life, all you can do is give your opinions to your child, and hope for the best.  But then again, isn’t that what taking your kids to church is to begin with?  Planting a seed in them to hope they can live as good or better life than your own.

It gets even more difficult when dealing with politics… If your wife believes in Pro-Choice, but you believe in Pro-Life… OR… you believe in the death penalty and your wife doesn’t… OR… even deeper, you don’t believe in Homosexual marriage, but your wife does… Don’t you start to see the problem.  It starts to get confusing.  The say opposites attract, but those opposites have to have some similarities in chemistry to still attract.

This was the first lesson that I learned in my 20’s.  Just because you are attracted to that person and just because you have good conversations… if your underlining life values clash, then it will never work.  From this ‘life experience’,  I have learned that if I do find love again, she’ll need to have many of the same life values as I do, or I know it will not work.

To Be Continued…

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